sober living and recovery

Recovery and Sobriety are possible

Many 12-step meetings have been temporarily suspended and the list of “No’s” and “Suggested No’s” can seem overwhelming, even to those who are not in recovery. Read on for some practical solutions to help you stay sober during this time.

recovery and sobriety

Recovery and Sobriety are possible.

If you have access to a computer and internet, there are online Recovery/12-Step meetings that you can “virtually” attend.  

12-Step Fellowship in the middle of a pandemic. This seems like an oxymoron. Aren’t we all supposed to be following an “as-rigid-as-possible” social distancing plan for the next few weeks? Many 12-step meetings have been temporarily suspended and the list of “No’s” and “Suggested No’s” can seem overwhelming, even to those who are not in recovery:

  • Stay home 
  • Only essential trips for groceries and medications
  • No visitors in our homes
  • No theater/concerts/athletic events
  • No gyms
  • No restaurants or cafes
  • No libraries
  • No playdates
  • No church services
  • No group gatherings

So many of these “NOs” feel like essential “YESes” for those of us in recovery: group meetings, church services, post-meeting breakfasts or coffees with 12-step friends, libraries, or other public refuges free of booze or drugs. 

And how do we practice Step 12–”Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs”–if we are staying home, if we can’t attend meeting or hold hands at the end of our meetings in our hopeful circle of prayer? If we can’t create that in-person linked chain that relies on common purpose and support? And if we are in early recovery or if we struggle with depression, anxiety, or any mental illness? Or if we are on the front lines, working service jobs that are incredibly stressful and exhausting, particularly in these times?

One of the first refrains clinicians recite over and over: Don’t isolateSeek out community.

Yet, the advice now given by clinicians to keep us all healthy and to help us be responsible to our communities is exactly (or seemingly) the opposite: Isolate. Keep your distance from each other.

And what of the “Hey! Let’s drink and drunk away the virus while we’re at home!” memes and posts? The online pics and tweets showing shopping carts full of booze? The jokes that “alcohol kills germs”? No, 12-Steppers aren’t humorless, but if we’re sober, struggling to stay sober, or trying to get sober without our 12-step meetings, it can be hard to shrug off the lighthearted banter. These jokes, too, can trigger fleeting or ruminative catastrophic thoughts: i.e., “F*ck it. Why not get drunk or use? No one will know. And if we’re all going to die…” 

Yes, we can and should call our sponsors and we can and should call our sponsees. 

Revision: No can, no should. We will call each other. Basic 12-step outreach. A few texts across the day to let each other know we are here and still working our program. A quick phone call or video chat to hear one anothers’ voices and to see one another in real time. If you and your sponsor/sponsee have smart phones, download one of the free video chat services and have a virtual one-on-one meeting together.

If you have access to a computer and internet, there are online Recovery/12-Step meetings that you can “virtually” attend. If you worry about privacy, create an anonymous user name and find a meeting that is text/message based (so no video). A computer and basic computing skills are all that is generally required to enter a meeting: click, link, join, and type (or voice text). These online meetings, like those held out in the world, have a regular schedule, and most online options offer daily meetings. Some resources for online meetings are:

Also if you are healthy and able, try to get outside for a walk (keep 6 feet distance from others) or take a (true) breather from your front steps as often as you can (as long as you are not symptomatic). Open skies, sunshine, clouds, rain, wind, trees, bird song–that is, the noise of the world–can help remind us that the world is here and we are still of the world.

If you are reading this in order to find out how you might support friends or loved ones in recovery who can’t attend meetings or follow their out-in-the-world recovery protocols: Please reach out to those who are self-quarantining or social distancing. They might be newly sober. Or in the middle of their 90 Meetings in 90 days. Or might rely on daily meetings. Or weekly meetings. Or meetings only when they need them. For some, their home group meeting might be what has been keeping them sober and alive

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James Reidy

James Reidy

I am a Certified Drug and Alcohol Interventionist